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Most gratifying were the responses from some of you saying, “Omigod, this is happening to me right now! I’m in a similar situation; however, I believe he’s the first man I’ve ever truly loved.

He has commitment issues and will never really settle down with me.

It turns out to be a source of considerable concern for a lot of ladies, as this poignant response shows: “Where is he?

He had just moved to Atlanta from Chicago and had this whole stereotypical macho thing about him.

Because I know plenty of guys who would really do some shit to you.”“No, I’m a woman, a transgender woman,” I answered, trying to make him understand. His entire view of me had changed and there was no going back.

I vowed as I left his place in the middle of the night that I would never put myself in that dangerous of a situation again.

He was a black guy, of Jamaican descent, and he often explained that coming from a single-mother household put more pressure on him to be a certain kind of man.

Though we had a ton of chemistry, he couldn’t understand the ways in which he constantly invalidated my identity.

Despite one pervasive misconception that transgender people transition for the approval or acceptance of future sexual partners, when I transitioned there was nothing about the forthcoming experience that assured me I would be seen as desirable. But when you’re trans, it’s hard in a completely different way.I didn’t know if I’d ever have the chance to be loved. It’s all too easy to internalize the assumptions that we are rudimentary facsimiles of the people we actually want to be, or that we take on a lifestyle that’s all about mutilating our “God-given, natural” bodies.Being a person of color that floats between the queer world and the straight world adds all the more pressure. We’d just met, so I can only imagine the infinite possibilities swirling in his head.He was an amateur MMA fighter, came from the hood — apparently a former gang member, as I learned later. We’re the dirty little secrets who get calls only after hours.

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